My intention remains to share wisdom nuggets from challenge in hopes that these, possibly, aid you in maneuvering through difficulty and opening you to helpful discoveries.
If any ideas don’t interest you, you disagree with them, or you Question them because it/they do not feel like your Truth, I respect that. Actually, I encourage it.
‘Questioning’ was – and still is for me – an aspect of growing through, and finding advantage from, adversity.
Before illness and fall/fall/falling-to-truly-heal, instead of Questioning advice, information, or suggestions of others, books, media, articles, training, social media, you-name-it, I generally went along – gathering others knew better. Or from fear of rocking boats. People pleasing was a factor too.
When ashes surrounded moi, significant doubts arose. I Questioned my thinking – both about the mundane and the deep.
What do I believe?
How do I heal?
What do I think I ‘know’ which, really, no longer serves or is not even true?
What interests me – or not?
How do I really feel about fill-in-the-blank?
The Questions were often internal during Silence, while praying/meditating, or to sages I knew or even read. I listened to wise ones about Question asking, like this former green beret Mike Martel, who describes it here.
Questions seemed nearly endless at times. Hope, especially in the dark, that answers would arrive was, in moments, slim to none.
Humbling, yet liberating. Unknowns abounded, alas aha-s appeared. – – – Thank you, God.
As philosopher and theologian Peter Abelard said, “by doubting, we are led to Question, by Questioning we arrive at the truth.”
Just asking Questions seemed to aim me in the general direction of discovering answers – even though I had no clue if answers were forthcoming.
Continuing to Question, I realized – Incrementally – the benefit of unlearning, relearning, and unlearning some more.
Learning and relearning cycles amidst difficulty even taught that “we learn more by looking for the answer to a Question and not finding it than we do from learning the answer itself” per Lloyd Alexander.
I practiced curiously querying (instead of judgmentally interrogating) by:
• Asking open ended Questions often starting with ‘What…?’ or ‘How…?,
• Choosing to Listen (with mouth zipped) to various ideas and wise folks – even if/when I had to Act As If before I really felt like it,